I'm kind of curious to do some social experiment to proof this... I don't know how, yet.
I meet people a lot. A lot.
Every relationship ain't go easy because everyone's different... and we are in the "reachable age" - you can reach almost anybody you want to meet/talk - which means, your next friend can be a very old man, someone lives in the opposite of the earth. It could be any race or nationality, age, religion, sex, in any circumstance.
It's exciting but at the same time, scary.
Because every relationship starts with "asking" something.
Or, maybe relationship is asking and providing.
Although asking, providing and rejection are kind of a package deal.
That's why asking is scary.
But you can't get what you want if you don't ask.
And in this reachable age, it's such a waste to give up asking.
Those two women, they are the one who's chosen the way to live with "that".
The art of asking | Amanda Palmer | TED2013
My year of living without money | Carolien Hoogland | TEDxErasmusUniversity
They tend to be caught up in the concord fallacy. They are afraid of facing their relationship the way it is because they obsess over the sunk cost which is the time they spent as a couple/friends/family ... whatever relationships that can be explained in words.
Like or not, every relationship changes. If you always look at trust and respect that the relationship is holding, it doesn't matter. Although many people try to keep playing the role even if it has become a mere facade. As if the relationship has been always the same.
I find it odd.
For me, it looks something's wrong with their humanity. That's fine by me if they are happy. In fact, many of them are happy (even if they look suffering).
The saddest case is, people who are educated like that but a little too receptive to accept that facade.
Their suffering is real (I guess). But they don't know how they deal with it because of their education.
Interestingly, these people are very bad at asking other people a help.
Even though they really need a help.
I think there's a key to solve the issue.
Asking people a help could cure something.
I don't know.