"We are taught right now that we are living in a world of constant and increasing polarity. It's so black and white, so us and them, so right and wrong. There is no middle, there is no gray, just polarity."
" I think the opposite of polarity is duality. Duality is a state of having two parts, but not in diametrical opposition, in simultaneous existence. "
You can displace the half-twist but you never can get rid of it from the strip.
Homofobia, racism, lookism, obesity, animal rights, food waste, GMO, environments, hanger, disease, etc etc.. All those problems line up on the strip.
I'm just happy when people I love are happy. No matter what.
She says "If you don't see my gayness, then you don't see me.".
But I think it's not about gayness.
"If it doesn't matter to you who I sleep with, then you cannot imagine what it feels like when I walk down the street late at night holding her hand, and approach a group of people and have to make the decision if I should hang on to it or if I should I drop it when all I want to do is squeeze it tighter. And the small victory I feel when I make it by and don't have to let go."
Thing is, if you really care about your friend, you imagine his/her circumstance voluntarily. You'll try to understand how they suffer, or when they feel happy.
And this is it. This is "the courage to hold both things".
I try to make my friends happy. I try not to do something they don't like to them.
No matter if I feel the same way or not.
I wouldn't do something against my principles, tho.
( I don't know. Perhaps I don't have empathy and so I have a different method to build friendships. )
There're many fake friendships. They like their friends but they don't care.
And fake relationships maybe. They like their gf/bf but they love themselves better.
Caring requires the courage. That's why caring your friends teaches you what the duality is.